Blue Hair & Tattoos? I’m Taking Off My ‘Mom Costume’

My senior year of college was when I finally felt comfortable with my “look.” I had black hair with hot pink tips, tattoos scattered about my skin, and jeans that came by their many rips honestly.

Then, I became a mom and I felt the pressure to look more “mom-like.” I didn’t know any moms with tattoos and unicorn hair.

That is how my “Mom Costume” came to be. I kept my hair a natural color. I stopped getting tattoos. I bought a pair of mom jeans. My clothes shopping mantra was “More Donna Reed, less Joan Jett.”

It wasn’t until my third child was born that I had an epiphany – I AM a mom, no matter what I look like.

It seems silly it took me so long to realize that, but society puts a lot of pressure on moms (and women in general) when it comes to appearance.

I worried that my old look would make people assume I was a bad mom. But I know I am a good mom and it’s got nothing to do with how I dress or style my hair.

I let go of that ridiculous notion of what a “good mom” looks like and decided to reclaim my style.

I’ve had electric blue hair for over a year now, new tattoos (homages to Wonder Woman and Harry Potter), and while I still rock the mom jeans, I do it because they are super comfortable and not because I think I have to.

Punk rock women can be good moms. Conservatively-dressed women can be bad moms.
We all have the capacity to be good or bad parents, but that is all based on our choices, not our appearance.